Does God punish us very harshly for our mistakes, such as non-deliberate betrayal in relationships, even if we are dying of guilt and are intentions were good on the whole? Does God give us our love back after we accept our punishment in good spirit?
All our actions have consequences according to the intentions we hold in our heart at the time. It’s not that we should think of God meting out punishment to us, we are merely receiving the reactions of our past actions for the opportunity to further our evolution. Relating to God as an avenger who punishes us will generally encourage a sense of separation and distance from God. Guilt is often the way we punish ourselves even more which further distances us from God and our inner nature.
We don’t have to wait for punishment in order for God to then give our love back, it is never gone. True forgiveness and atonement comes through connecting to that divine source of unconditional love within.